Debbie's Weblog

Thursday, August 22, 2002

It's 01.59am Friday morning and I can't sleep as I have had too much coca-cola and coffee and a lot on my mind. I have been going through some friendship problems recently, and I am actually beginning to understand a lot about people, myself included, why we need friends, how to maintain healthy relationships and why sometimes we need to let some friendships go. So, what is a friend?

A friend is one who hears and understands when you share your deepest feelings. Supports you when you are struggling. Corrects you in love when you are going in the wrong direction. Forgives you when you fail. Helps you to grow and reach your full potential. Celebrates with you when you succeed. A friend is always loyal, trusting, supportive and would never hear a bad word said against you. A friend is somebody who, keeps your secrets and never divulges them even if tortured - or worse tempted with chocolate. Quietly destroys that photo of you that makes you look like a beached whale. Knows when you don't know what you are talking about but smiles supportively and allows you to reach that conclusion on your own. Goes with you on a diet - and off it too! Doesn't say "I told you so", no matter how tempting it may be. Is kind and true at all times.

Does that sound like you? Are you that kind of friend? If it sounds a bit too idealistic, you would be right. No matter how good our friendships may be, they will never be perfect. People will no doubt always let you down, intentionally or unintentionally. We all have flaws, and if people get to know the real you, that's when they become even more evident, and it's nearly always the case that you see faults in others but never you own. Think about your friendships, who can you really trust with all your heart, someone in your life with whom you can share you inner-most secrets. How do you rate yourself as a friend? How many of the above descriptions can you tick off that describe you? Be really honest!

Some of the above was taken from "Word for Today" by Bob Gass

Wednesday, August 21, 2002

A MOTHER'S INFLUENCE

There will come a time when there'll be no more slamming of doors, no more mess to clear up, no more childhood quarrels and no more finger-prints on the wallpaper. Then may you look back with joy and not regret. May God grant you wisdom to see that today is the day with your children, that there are no unimportant moments in their lives, that nothing is more precious, no work more rewarding and no task too urgent. May you not defer it, nor neglect it, but accept it gladly and understand that you time is short and you time is now. Paint pictures in their hearts, treasured memories that they will carry them through their lives. Feed them with the love only a mother can give. Never miss as opportunity to hug or assure, mother with child, just keep it simple. Stay with it, be encouraged, never ever forget the permanence of your imprint. Don't expect your children to appreciate what you do for them now, it's only when they are older, that they will realise how important their mother was and is in their life. Your children will be ungrateful and act irresponsibly, and they may even ignore or forget your advice, and sometimes they may have to learn by their own mistakes, but believe this, they cannot erase your influence.

Tuesday, August 20, 2002

I haven't given much time to myself for a long time, you get used to it, and then when it comes to doing something for yourself, you don't know what to do. This weblog has given me a lot to think about. What can I put in my personal journal that won't bore the pants off people who don't want to listen to a load of old drivel about my life? My aim for this weblog, let me think now..................................
I want to give true and honest reflections of my everyday life, I want to be real. I want to put forward a positive testimony of being a Christian and share what God means to me. I want to communicate with people, I know that it's a personal journal, but I want to share my thoughts and experiences and receive feedback. I have got a long way to go before that happens, I think there are only about 2 or 3 people who will read this at the moment. Lastly, I want to do this for me, I have always loved putting my thoughts down on paper, it somehow helps me to focus on issues of the heart and stuff, and see things more clearly. All I need to do is get my life more interesting, and with God that won't be hard.

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When I say ~ I am a Christian
I'm not shouting, "I'm saved"
I'm whispering, "I got lost"
That's why I chose this way

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I don't speak of this with pride
I'm confessing that I stumble
And need someone to be my guide

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I'm not trying to be strong
I'm professing that I am weak
And pray for strength to carry on

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I'm not bragging of success
I'm admitting I have failed
And cannot ever pay my debt

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I'm not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are too visible
But God believes I'm worth it.

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartaches
Which is why I seek His name

When I say ~ I am a Christian
I do not wish to judge
I have no authority
I only know I'm loved.

Author unknown

Monday, August 19, 2002

I had better tell you a bit about myself. I am 31 and a mother to 3 daughters, Louise 8, Aimee 7 and Claire 3, I have been married to John for 11 years and we live in Glasgow, Scotland. I am a stay at home mum, not literally I do get out....sometimes, and I haven't worked at all for 9 years. I have loved being with my kid's as they have grown up, and I am really thankful that I haven't missed a thing throughout their developing years. Being a mum is hard work, but very rewarding as all you mums out there will know. School started back today after 7 weeks summer holidays. It's an exciting time for the kids, they love school and have missed all their friends. I read somewhere today that school reminds us that, as parents our job is to raise our kids so they don't need us. I think that the girls will always need me in some way or another, but we have to teach them independence, so that as adults they will be able to go out into the big world fully equipped in every way. Another very important part of my life is my faith. Without it I know that I would fall apart. As this weblog continues I will explain more about my encounters with God. I feel that my life is entering a new phase. My baby goes to nursery next Monday, which leaves me with 3 hours every day to contemplate where my life goes from here now that my family are growing up. I am very much looking forward to the future and what lies ahead. I think that gives you a small picture of my life. Debbie

Sunday, August 18, 2002

Welcome to my weblog.

I'm sure it won't be as popular as my brothers, the famous Gary Turner. I didn't inherit as much wit as him, in fact I am the original mug who was the brunt of many jokes and milkary's. During this I might mention some of his sick and hilarious tricks that he has played on me and other members of our family. I will also tell you more about me.

Catch you later
Debbie